Crush Culture Test, 1st version

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Oh yes. Today, I am testing your neediness. Prepare to be butthurt.

I have been meaning to do something like this, and I said to myself, why not wait until Valentine’s Day to do it? Since I am committed to making others aware of Crush Culture, it would make sense to have a test on it, similar to my POS/Collectivism test, another part of our culture I wish to make others aware of.

Different than my POS Test, which will get updated twice yearly, this will be updated every Valentine’s Day (if necessary). The components of crush culture do not change as much as collectivism in that there are not as many new issues that come up that I can make questions about.

Like the POS Test, the higher your score out of 100, the more likely you are to look towards people you have a romantic interest in to make you happy.

Some of these questions only pertain to a certain sex, or if you are single or not, so look at questions carefully so that you do not answer extra questions.

With that being said, here we go! Have fun.

Age and Gender/Sex:

A. Under 25, male (4)
B. Under 25, female (2)
C. 25-30, male (4)
D. 25-30, female (2)
E. Over 30, male (10)
F. Over 30, female (8)

Marital status:

A. Single and I don’t mind (1)
B. Single and I hate it (6)
C. In a relationship/married, but it is open/not serious (3)
D. In a relationship, and it is serious (6)
E. Married (10)

Have you uttered the following statement: “If this person becomes my partner, he/she will save me from myself”

A. Yes (8)
B. No (2)

Do you look to people you are romantically attracted to for happiness?

A. Yes (8)
B. No (2)

(Single people only) How many people have you invited out on a date in the last year?

A. Do not know, I have lost track (2)
B. I know exactly who I invited, when, how, etc… (6)

(Single people only) How many people do you typically invite out on a date per week, if you are pursuing a partner?

A. Less than 10 (8)
B. 10-20 (5)
C. At least 20 (2)

Marriage is:

A. Something our society needs to stay healthy (8)
B. Something I am working towards (6)
C. Antiquated and unnecessary for a couple (3)

(Males only) It is more ethical to overvalue a woman than it is to view her as what women’s movements refer to as a “sex object.”

A. Yes (6)
B. No (5)
C. It is the same thing, and I refuse to do either (2)

(Females only) It is more ethical to overvalue a man than it is to view her as what men’s movements refer to as a “human ATM.”

A. Yes (6)
B. No (5)
C. It is the same thing, and I refuse to do either (2)

(Answer only if in a relationship) Do you believe that it is permissible to have as much access as your partner does to his/her contact devices (e-mail, phone, social networking accounts etc.)

A. Yes (5)
B. No (2)

Do you agree with this statement: “Because I am in a serious relationship with this person, they are obligated to do certain things with me. If they do not do these things, then they are a bad partner.” (Answer only if in a relationship)

A. Yes (5)
B. No (2)

(Men Only) Women can be won over by saying nice things to them and buying them things. If I do these things and the woman I like is not attracted, there is something wrong with her.

A. Agree (8)
B. Disagree (2)

(Women Only) Because I am having sex with my boyfriend/husband, they are obligated to treat me to fancy dates, buy me things, and generally provide for me.

A. Agree (8)
B. Disagree (2)

What are your opinions on open relationships?

A. They are immoral. Only degenerates even entertain the thought of them (8)
B. They may or may not work, but they are not for me (5)
C. They do work, and I prefer them (2)

You are in a serious relationship and you catch them cheating. Your response?

A. Leave them, then insult them on social media (10)
B. Leave them without insulting them on social media (6)
C. Ask if they want to continue the relationship as an open relationship, if you feel like there is a good future for the relationship (3)

You just finished up a first date. What are your next actions?

A. Excitedly call/write them, and immediately plan the second date. For all you know, this person is your partner now (6)
B. Call/write them, plan the second date, and continue to look for potential suitors. This person is a partner in progress (4)
C. Wait some time to call/write, and continue to look for potential suitors (2)

In the last year, have you pleasured yourself to pictures of someone you like?

A. Yes (6)
B. No (2)

In the last year, have you sought out performers who resemble the person you have a crush on when you watch adult videos?

A. Yes (8)
B. No (2)

My happiness is greatly affected by how successful I am with the opposite sex.

A. Yes (5)
B. No (2)

No matter what, there is always someone better for me out there.

A. Yes (2)
B. No (5)

You just had sex with someone new. You enjoyed the sex as well as the company. What do you do next?

A. Don’t have sex with anyone else, and try your best to try to have sex with them again (6)
B. Do your best to have sex with them again, but continue to pursue others (4)
C. Do not try to have sex with them again, and continue to pursue others (2)

Add up all the points you got from your responses. Remember that there were a few questions that were gender specific as well as marital status specific. Here’s the summary of the results. And keep in mind that if you score high, it does not mean you are a bad person. It just means you have been been misled by people who believe that overvaluing partners/potential partners is a good, healthy thing. In this current age where everyone demands equal treatment and where meeting people is easier than ever, it is not.

90-100 = One word: Hopeless. Those are your romance prospects (if single) or chances at happiness (if in a relationship) if you do not understand how toxic your thinking is. I know you have been raised to believe that you should overvalue the opposite sex as much as possible. But its wrong. And believe it or not, you are objectifying the opposite sex to a disturbing degree by overvaluing them so much.

89-80 = You aren’t bad, but you aren’t too great either. Unlike the 90-100 crowd, you aren’t accustomed to chasing down people you like until they get uncomfortable. And if you are in a relationship, you have successfully resisted the temptation to demand that you let them check their phone and other contact information. You still probably struggle with people you have just started dating, however. Just because you went out with someone once does not make them your partner.

79-70 = You’re getting there. You know not to chase people you like until they become uncomfortable, you know that just because you went out with someone once does not make them your current partner. Your major issue comes with new people you have sex with. If you land in this result field, it means if you have sex with someone new, you likely catch feelings. This is a difficult to overcome, and really can only be solved with either experience or a really hard lesson.

69-60 = Now we’re talking. This is a level where most are not at, and where most never will be at. You enjoy open relationships, know that it is still okay, and even good, to keep pursuing new people to date and have sex with even if you are seeing someone (and it isn’t serious, if it is serious, you need to do your best to open up that relationship), and take care to never develop unreasonable expectations for anyone you are romantic with. There is one small problem. And that’s when you have sex with someone new, who is more attractive than the people you are used to having sex with. This is something I have recently had to deal with, and it is ultimately a self esteem issue. After all, the most nagging part of crush culture is looking to the opposite sex for esteem. And we live in a world where we are judged by our appearance and the appearances of the people we are with. Because of this, looking to the opposite sex for esteem is an easy thing to place on autopilot. How can this be addressed? The short answer is to believe that you deserve very attractive people in your life, as long as you are doing your best to improve your appearance and other things that other people find attractive.

Under 59 = When you have solved the problem of looking to the opposite sex for esteem decisively, you have reached this level. I feel like I am close to this level. This is not an easy level to get to, and only a handful of individuals in this entire world get to this level. Many think that the sexually hyperactive are at this level. Well, you would be wrong. While enjoying a diverse sex life is a major component of addressing crush culture, being sexually hyperactive usually means you still look to the opposite sex for esteem. Those in this level look to only one person for esteem and that is themselves. And they can do this WITHOUT being arrogant about it.

What did you score? Did this test reveal some things that you need to work on?

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