Today I am going to analyze the recent deaths of two very successful individuals known around the world, and why no one should attempt to immediately link bad mental health to suicide.
Over the past five years, we’ve seen a lot of successful and famous people kill themselves. Robin Williams. Chris Cornell. Chester Bennington. And most recently, Anthony Bourdain and Kate Spade.
POSes and other hilariously psychotic collectivists will already have the answer as to why these people kill themselves: “Its because of (insert thing said POS does not like here)! Something has to be done!” Case in point: A buddy of mine posted this article on her facebook feed, to which someone commented “Peoples disillusioned what is going on not only in the country but in the world.”
Typical Collectivist POS response. Drops a line not related at all to an individual choice someone makes. Complete with bad grammar, too!
I can assure you that neither Bourdain nor Spade or anyone who decides to kill themselves did it because they didn’t like what was going on in the world. Perhaps that was one of many things that might have influenced them, but certainly not a direct cause. In fact, can anyone truly know what someone is thinking when they decide to kill themselves?
The answer to that is no. You cannot. About four years ago, a buddy of mine killed himself. None of us had any idea that he even had any intent of doing so. He just kind of randomly did it.
This brings me to the next topic of this discussion: Mental Health. The term “mental health” seems to be a buzzword that people enjoy throwing around when they hear about a suicide, as if they were alleviating some kind of guilt if they don’t post “we must start a conversation about mental health!” On social media or something.
Friends, I really hate to burst your bubble, but bad mental health does not have any direct cause to suicide. You see, a blogger I follow about five or so years ago came up with something he calls the 2% rule. This rule, originally designed to calm the fear of sex that most men had, can be applied to a number of things.
Thinking that mental health automatically puts someone at risk of killing themselves so now we all must be very aware of anyone who demonstrates the “signs” of bad mental health is a clear violation of this rule, for the simple fact that we usually have no idea why someone thinks about killing themselves. Bad mental health might have something to do with it, but something else could have something to do with it. If you took everyone who reported that they have bad mental health, its pretty certain that 2% of that demographic have tried to kill themselves…and succeeded.
Oh and by the way, I have plenty of street cred when it comes to this kind of thing. Midway through my senior year of high school, I was brutally rejected by a crush I had. And because of that (as well as two other very bad things that happened to me), it affected my mental health to the point where I wanted to hurt others and myself. Because it affected my self confidence and self esteem so much, I started thinking of killing myself. And on three separate instances, I cut myself.
I floundered through my 20s putting next to no effort in anything, and decided that I did not want to live anymore so I took out every student loan I could possibly take. And on one fateful day in 2011, I tried jumping off of a pier. But I could not do it, and stayed alive.
The point of all this is that when you hear that someone has killed themselves, you should resist the temptation to automatically attribute it to mental health. You should also resist the temptation to try to attribute it to our culture, our power structures, or anything else that gives you a knee-jerk reaction.
Am I saying you should disregard mental health awareness? Absolutely not. You should do what you can to make sure that the people around you are of sound mental health. If you want, you can even support organizations who support mental health awareness. In fact, every May, I watch a one week long video game stream that is sponsored by the National Institute of Mental Illness (NAMI). And if I have some money to give away, I will gladly donate to them.
Yes, mental health is a factor in how someone decides to kill him or herself. However, it is not the only factor, and screaming all over social media that is the only factor is a tragic waste of energy. Just accept that it happened, move on, and keep doing you.